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quick summary... Guy (Leo) meets girl (Paige). They fall in love. They get married. They get in a car accident. Girl loses all memory of now-husband, and is put back 5 years in her mindset. Guy is devastated (obviously) and tries to win her back. Girl is totally uncooperative, because helloooo, she doesn't even know him, and the 20 year old her (that is who she is in her mind) is nothing like the 25 year old her that married her husband, and oh, in her mind, she's still engaged to her gremlin-creep-goblin of a fiancee, Jeremy. *takes a breath* So then, husband decides to stop freaking his wife out, and allows her to divorce him, after trying SO desperately to get her to fall back in love with him. Life goes on for a while. Then girl repeats what she'd done as her 20 year old self and goes through the changes in her life that led her to guy. Then after a long time apart, they run into each other at a coffee shop they'd frequented together, and decide to go out to dinner, and walk off into the snowy gloominess of life. The end.

What I liked about this movie: ~Channing Tatum and Rachel McAdams. I love these actors. Rachel McAdams is truly one of my favorites. I just adore her. She's beautiful, she's graceful, and Channing Tatum his handsome and a good actor as well and nice to look at ~When Paige loses her memory, Leo is absolutely 100% determined to bring it back to her. He does everything he can to show her who she is now, in their life together. He is patient and kind. He tries so hard to bring the woman he knew back to him, and to give space to this woman he...doesn't know. And who doesn't know him. While he's completely torn apart, he holds it all together so well, and just does his best to take care of his wife, however difficult that may be. ~We learn that Paige had a falling out with her family over an affair between her father and one of her good friends. (Yikes.) After the accident, of course, she forgets that, and thus, her family gets a second chance at their relationship with her, and she embraces it (in her mind, they're still just her family; no affairs, no drama). But when she finds out about the affair, and confronts her mother, asking "Why didn't you leave him? How could you stay with him?", her mother answers: "I chose to stay with him for all the things he's done right; not the one thing he's done wrong. I chose to forgive him." That was very powerful to me. I think that affairs are one major thing that are skirted around; and even in the church, the thought often is "there's no forgiveness for that". And yes, it would be hard, it would be nearly impossible...but God calls us to forgive the inexcusable, as he forgave the inexcusable in us. (those are so not my words. I saw it once as a saying). I found her mother's forgiveness to be a beautiful thing. ~Before the accident, Paige and Leo's relationship is precious, beautiful, sweet, so full of love that it makes your heart want to burst just a little. I love seeing that :)

What I did not like (or rather, the difficult things in this movie): ~Paige doesn't remember Leo. As we've covered. And she's very uncooperative. Which, I mean, isn't really her fault. It'd be confusing. It'd be a bit scary. Especially since, in the past 5 years (the now lost years), Paige has undergone a major personality change. She went from being an aspiring lawyer, to an artist. A country girl (suburb girl?) to a city girl. A girl waking up with a handsome husband. And it's very, very difficult to watch how she treats Leo now that she's back to her "old" self. Yes, she tries. Yes, she likes him. But she isn't the girl she was when she married him. And so she jumps ship. She gives up. She decides that she's not even going to try anymore. And that sucks. ~Thus, the two get a divorce. It breaks Leo's heart to do it...this is his wife. And he has to let her go. The most touching line of the movie may have been when he said "How do you look at the girl you love and tell yourself it's time to walk away?" *sigh* Leo sticks it out till the end. He does everything possible, until there's nothing left to do. And it kind of breaks your heart to watch as he does walk away. Because that's all that he can do.

but at the end you can see hope that there is still a change that love can grow back and its froma true story meaning that there can be a happy ending